Maximize the Quality of Your Alone Time

Whether you’re an introvert or an extrovert, you need alone time. Some of us crave it. Some of us avoid it. But no matter your disposition, there will of course be times in your life when you will be by yourself.

I’m by myself right now!

Excellent! That means I’m talking to you. If you also happen to be one of those who dreads being alone, want you to realize what an enormous gift being alone is. How many projects have you been putting off because you’ve been busy catering to other people? How unfocused have you become because you haven’t allowed yourself the time you need for self-reflection?

Being alone is an opportunity. It’s a chance to put your creative powers to use and make something unique that will add value to people’s lives. So much of the alone time we do have we end up squandering. How much time do you spend alone consuming the creations of other people instead of making something yourself?

You have the potential to do great things, and the majority of your best ideas will come to you when you are alone. Most of my great ideas for my novel Scourge Ship came to me while I was alone.

You probably shouldn’t use ‘great ideas’ and ‘Scourge Ship’ in the same sentence.

That’s true, but the point is that I took the time to make something that was my own. And you can too, if you’re willing to use your alone time to the fullest.

“The Warrior of the Light makes use of solitude, but he is not used by it.” – Paulo Coehlo

What kind of pseudo-spiritual nonsense is that?

The kind that will hopefully motivate you to take action. I’m certainly not suggesting that you should never watch TV or sit on the couch and zone out from time to time, but that you take a critical eye to the things you do in your spare time. You may discover opportunities that you never knew existed.

How a Simple Mantra Can Change Your Life

What would you do if you weren’t afraid? How many opportunities have you allowed to pass you by because you were too afraid to act? If you find that you hold yourself back due to mild fears or discomfort, try using this statement as your rallying cry: Act without fear!

Come on, John, that’s kind of stupid. How am I supposed to just eliminate my fears?

Okay, so I wasn’t being totally honest with the way I represented that. This isn’t a magical cure-all to prevent you from feeling any fear. The point here is to not let your fear prevent you from taking action. Sometimes we don’t even realize that fear is holding us back. Instead, we convince ourselves that the reason we chose not to do something that might better our lives is because we were too tired or just didn’t feel like it. This creates an illusion that we’ve made a perfectly rational choice.

When this happens to me, I remind myself to act without fear. Often times this provides enough of a mental jolt to get me over the hump and take action.

Sounds like bullshit to me.

I challenge you to give it a try in your own life and see how much more you can accomplish, and much less you procrastinate.

Worried about giving a presentation at work? Act without fear.

Nervous about calling that special someone? Act without fear.

Nervous about asking that special someone to help insert suppositories into your rectum because you’re constipated? Act without fear. Also, gross.

Note: This isn’t designed to combat major panic attacks (though you’re free to try it). That will be the subject of a different article. But for all other fears you may face, keep this weapon in the back of your mind deploy it whenever you need help battling your own inaction.