Don’t Force Yourself to do Things You Don’t Want

Sacrificing your happiness to please others is self-defeating

Forcing yourself to do something you don’t want to do is a losing proposition. It leads to resentment both for yourself and for any people you blame for your predicament.

I resent having to read your banal blog posts.

Exactly! Thank you for that great example. You’re forced to read my posts because I created you and didn’t give you a say in the matter.

In the future there will be laws against this sort of thing.

A lot of our unhappiness is due to us living in the past or the future as opposed to living in the present. But that’s a subject for a later discussion.

What does that picture have to do with the topic, anyway?

I don’t know, maybe the kid didn’t want to be forced to leave his home?

Anyway, sometimes we’ll agree to attend a social event out of a sense of obligation, or because we feel guilty for saying no. Other times the mere thought that we might receive such an invitation causes us to avoid people altogether. We don’t have to feel guilty about saying no if we never get invited in the first place. This kind of avoidance behavior can ultimately be self-defeating, as we can also start to feel guilty about avoiding people in general.

In these instances, we can relieve some of the stress involved by simply reminding ourselves that we don’t have to do anything we don’t want to.

I really don’t want to have to read any more of this post.

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